In the past year I've heard of several Moms who have chosen to end their marriages and leave families behind. It just blows my mind that you could turn around and walk away. What on earth would seriously possess a mother to do this? All I can think about is that the evil one is working overtime to get into families and home and rip them apart. It breaks my heart to see these husbands and children left behind to pick up the pieces! I pray that God will cause these women to have a change of heart and reconsider their decisions! I know the Lord could "fix" the things that seem so wrong and they could live a long, happy life with their family by their sides!
For I know the plan I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not harm you, plans to give you hope and a bright future! Jeremiah 29:11
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Oh how I wish I could spare them the heartache that WILL arrive at some later date. Whether it's the wife or the husband that leaves (for some reason apart from heinous abuse or habitual infidelity), the grass is truly not greener.
We have numerous friends that divorced - some 2 & 3 times. To a person they (and I mean 100% of them) have said at some point: "I wish I'd worked out the difficulties with my first spouse."
And those of us that have lived awhile and been married long can say, with certainty, the best is always yet to come.
I'll be praying for them too.
Kathleen
I hope that things will turn around for them before it gets to the point of the Big D. I hope they take a long separation and then evaluate things. They are in our prayers. Tell Jeff we really enjoyed talking with him the other night. We should get together for a game night.
It's not just moms. Too often the men want to sow their oats in greener pastures too.
I think society has taught the past few generations that it's all about them, that they should be happy no matter what anyone else thinks or how they hurt. Now the children are reaping the consequences of the actions of their parents.
The awful thing is that society doesn't focus on the awful outcome of making these choices. The kids feel rejected and unloved (no matter how much you talk to them about it), the cost of a divorce is astronomical financially as well as emotionally and most of the time, the parents regret their decisions because they find out it's hard - very hard! - and that you can't go back to start again as if nothing happened.
(Stacey, when I view your blog, your letters and your background are white. I have to highlight your post to read it. Just thought you should know...)
I have to say that I stumbled across your blog through someone else's, and I really enjoy reading it! That being said, I just read this and actually started to cry...my mom walked out on us for the final time on my 12th birthday. She had done it before but would show up a week or so later, but that day she never came back. It hurts so bad at times, I say I am over it and whatever most of the time, but then I see teenage girls with their mom at church or the mall or something and it kills me. I never had that. I applaud you for speaking out and say what you did, because it happens more often than we know.
My heart breaks for couples who are facing such trials. Like the old saying goes...marriage takes 3! If we make Christ the center of our relationship, everyday life is so much easier. It's great that you and Jeff can set an example and impact the lives of your friends. Marriage isn't easy...but neither is divorce! Jesus is the answer!
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